If you follow me on Instagram, you’ll already know that I’ve decided upon my new May mantra: “A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it, it just blooms”. I’ve come to internalize this thought, as it feels like it’s so easy to get caught up in others’ successes these days, whether they’re in the realm of career, fitness, academics, relationships, or elsewhere.
There’s obviously a huge amount of pressure on post-secondary students to get the best grades, the most real world experience, and the most connections, and all in a very short amount of time. And I think we can all agree that social media makes this a hell of a lot harder (I’ll be the first to admit to being guilty of sharing my good news a little too often).
The bottom line? We’re all in competition, and the internet makes it far too easy to scope out our competitors.
It’s hard not to look at your classmates and wonder if you’re working as hard as them, or if your skills can measure up to their’s, but constantly comparing yourself to others (and superficially, might I add) is not gonna help you land your next job. We’re not meant to all end up in the same position, company, or industry, and at the same time, we all have a different image of what we want our future to look like (working internationally? from home? married with children?). None of us want the same thing out of life, so why do we feel the need to take the same path? And unless you’re extremely close with those you admire, the chances are that you don’t really know the whole story about what they’re looking for.
So instead of constantly examining what everyone else is doing, take a look at your own skills and be honest with yourself – what can you improve on, what are you awesome at, where do you really want to go? Then take it from there. After all, your LinkedIn network is supposed to help you build your career, not make you feel down about your progress.