Hola everyone! I’m back from Punta Cana, and I’m happy to say that I got to accomplish a lot of reading (poolside, of course) over the past week. One blog post that was floating around Facebook particularly struck a nerve with me though, you may have read it, but if not… give it a quick skim: 23 Things To Do Instead Of Getting Engaged Before You’re 23.
So before I get into my opinion, let me state that I understand that everyone else is also entitled to their own opinion. This blogger obviously has the (very strong) opinion that marriage shouldn’t happen before you are 23 years old; and while I may also not agree with marriage at such a young age, I’m not sure I would ever write a whole blog post about why you shouldn’t do it. What actually made me sad about this part of the post is that the author seems to think that it’s not possible to develop yourself as a person when you’re in a relationship. Now I’ve been single, and I’ve been in a relationship – and obviously they are both very different experiences, but I don’t think that one or the other is necessarily better than the other, and either/or is certainly not the same for every person. I definately recognize the importance of staying true to yourself, and sure, I’ve seen people dissolve into their relationship, but I can honestly say that my relationship with Paul has brought me out of my shell and made me a more adventurous person. We have so much fun together, and he’s seriously my best friend! We’ve talked about marriage obviously, but we’re certainly not planning on making that happen anytime soon, because we’re not at that point in our lives. But if others decide that they are, who are we to judge?
But enough about me – I actually found that the most disappointing part of the post was the “23 things” you should now do instead of getting engaged. Like I was ready to get inspired…. and then I was really let down by the list. At first I was just going to rant about why this post bothered me so much, and then Paul challenged me to come up with my own list. But here’s the thing – you don’t have to do all of the things on my list before you’re 23 – and you can be engaged already! These are some things I just think everyone should do. Enjoy!